Monday, January 5, 2009

January 4, 2009

Dear Children,

We walked out of church this evening to more snow believe it or not! It started while we were in our meetings and there was quite a blanket of snow covering everything including all the old piles of dirty snow that survived the intense rain we have had this week. We did have an expected snow shower the other night to break the monotony of rain. Even with all the snow and difficult driving Dad endured with icy windshields and broken chain problems, we still agree that snow is beautiful. It promotes a quiet and still feeling as we look outside from a warm home!

We are getting used to going to church again now with the weather calming down some! Two weeks in a row of no church can start a bad habit! Tonight we even stayed for Break the Fast dinner. The singles ward has so many vegetarians and vegans that even the stir fry is separated and there is a bowl of tofu or a bowl full of chicken to add to it. Church was great today; it is always nice to have a fresh start in a book of scriptures in Gospel Doctrines class (a time to reset the goal of doing my reading assignments for church)!

I like clean, fresh starts. As I wrote to Nate in a book that Santa slipped into his stocking about finding happiness in the daily routine of work and such, I noted that he had just passed the days of “fresh starts” every few months with the ending and beginning of each new semester. I realized, as I wrote, that there is a potential for great relief by coming to the end of a large college textbook. I remember that when I was in college and feeling overwhelmed by cracking open a textbook for the first class, thinking I would never get to the end of the book. Within a few short months you are studying the last chapters and either very glad or somewhat sad that the class is about to end for good! What a blessing a new beginning can be. Now Nate is at the beginning of his career where he will see the same people each day and do relatively the same work everyday with no semester to end to change all that. It is good that he is starting at such a great company to have a satisfying and rewarding work experience. Knowing that I am doing my your best work is my answer to having a rewarding work experience even when others do not notice your works. I think that is why I struggle with this “new” calling; I feel like Dad and I just aren’t doing our best.

Relief Society was also very good today. The teacher took a talk from an old BYU Today magazine! The lesson used the analogy of learning to speak a foreign language and knowing the language from a book but not being able to be proficient in it unless we practiced it a great deal and allowed it to become part of our nature . . .to becoming a “native speaker” in the Gospel. It was a very good lesson and emphasized the goal of becoming so proficient in the Gospel that nothing that comes from our mouth or thought in our minds that isn’t completely Christ-like.

The start of today was extremely different than any day in the last few weeks or maybe even months for that matter. We went to bed at a fairly reasonable time after spending Saturday putting away most of the Christmas things (not the dishes yet), finishing the last of Aaron’s sourdough pancake batter, and watching, in bed that night, a Feature Films Families called Down and Derby. The company called me over the holidays when I was in the middle of some kitchen project and asked if I would buy a couple of videos. I haven’t bought any for years and I do like to support their concept of clean family entertainment but we have no one left at home to entertain. When they said I could send it back if not completely satisfied I said yes just to get them off the phone and not spend any more time listening to their various movie descriptions. So, I wanted to watch this in a hurry so I could send it back immediately. But, we just might keep this one! I think you would all think it is pretty funny even though Dad was not like any of the Dads in the movie when it came down to the Pinewood Derby. It was a good thing that Dads were suppose to help their Cub Scouts since I may have become more like the Dads in the movie myself. I do remember that one year, it looked like so much fun to make one that I made myself a hot pink derby car with a lady holding a bag of groceries in the driver seat. I wonder whatever happened to that.

Anyway, (I guess that I am rambling Aaron) we slept in this morning. I mean, really slept in! I didn’t get out of bed until almost noon. We were both totally exhausted and just kept falling back to sleep (very easily I might add)! Good thing we are on the singles schedule of 2:30 church. Beaverton First ward now starts at 11:00.

This week rain has returned to Oregon and with the home empty of all the family, the pitter patter of the grandchildren is replaced by the pitter patter of raindrops on the skylights. We had a home bursting at the seams with family for a few days, twenty two in total; what could be better? We had a very enjoyable Christmas holiday and appreciate all of you making the effort to be here. Of course, some arrived with very detailed effort complicated by the snowstorms. Thank you to all those who helped with the creative out-of-the-box thinking to reroute our stranded travelers in Utah, the pioneers who braved the snow and ice and broken chains on the fourteen hour Seattle road trip, the siblings who generously donated clothing and diapers to the Brady family, the siblings who retrieved the lost luggage and of course, the siblings who braved the new storms to the south and digging the van out of deep snow ruts to get Kyre and children, the boys who rerouted themselves with perfect timing to avert yet another storm thus avoiding the delay of family fun and possible disappointment of missing the family photo. A big thank you goes to all of you who helped make this gathering happen. And really, whoever would have wanted to miss the above family bonding events?

The fact that Katie surprised me by coming home the Thursday before Christmas instead of on Saturday was a real blessing. Besides being extra help those days prior to everyone’s arrivals, her Saturday flight was one that was probably cancelled. When Heidi called after a snowstorm hit Utah and all the roads they had planned on which to travel here, she warned us that they might not be able to travel until closer to Christmas. We knew that meant they would miss most of Kyre and Albany grandchildren’s visit. We tried to figure out what we could do to save those plans. When Nate needed to reschedule his Saturday morning flight to Sunday, he discovered that Sunday afternoon flights had some spots available so we quickly secured those tickets for the Brady family also. But on Sunday when they all arrived at the airport, the flight was also cancelled. I waited on the phone to Southwest for what seemed forever as we tried to again salvage that family time together. Luckily, instead of waiting for the then available flights on Christmas Eve, Katie had the idea to reroute them to Seattle. As they sat on the runway for that flight to take off, there was thought that the newest storm hitting Seattle would thwart even those plans also. Luckily, they were the last flight to land in Seattle.

Again, much time on the phone informed us that there were no four wheel vehicles anywhere in the Seattle area to rent to make the snowy drive here so Dad chained up the van and took Adrianne with him which ended up being a 14 hour trek to Seattle to retrieve our stranded travelers!

Luckily, Shawn and Aubrey arrived early Saturday morning before the worst of the storm’s conditions but at a perfect time to play in the snow. Gregory and Shawn got lots of tractor time and sledding and sliding on the ice covered snow. Amazingly, Morty and Aaron were able to do some last minute flight changes allowing them to arrive earlier and on one of the few flights that made the Las Vegas to Portland flight on Tuesday.

Thank goodness Heidi, Bill, Shawn and Aubrey could make it down to see Scott for a nice visit on Monday morning even though the Sunday travel was so difficult. Adding the lost luggage to the mix had us scrambling in the early morning hours to gather appropriate clothing for Heidi and Bill to get into see Scott. Combining his visit with picking up Scott’s family made Scott very happy. It is always a pleasure to give Scott a hug goodbye while he knows that you will next hug one of his children or Kyre. He appreciates any kindness shown towards his children or Kyre. Thank you for regular notes sent to him and his family throughout the year. Even the travel to pick up Kyre and the children in Albany was frustrated with winter hazards with the weakened chains breaking (Dad couldn’t buy extra chain links early the morning after the Seattle fiasco) and unplowed deep snow on some of the roads that had to be traveled. But all the extra time, money and work was worth it to have us all together under the same roof for even a short time.

Of course Dad had plowed a huge snow mountain in the middle of the court but few of our own grandchildren played on it much as we had hoped since some came after just being sick so we kept them close and mostly inside. The snow cancelled our annual Zoolights visit. I can’t imagine what it would have been like to walk down those fist hills and the big bridge of the zoo if it was covered in ice as was reported.

We did get in a ton of game playing and had so many fun family times. Kyre and the children had an early Christmas here which was fun. It made for a huge pile of presents under the tree leaving not much room for people! The gingerbread houses made after family home evening were orchestrated by Aubrey and quite excellent I might say. There was so much candy on them that they provided too much temptation for small hands the rest of the holiday! I meant to “share the joy” by sending one of the gingerbread houses back with Kyre!

The night of gingerbread house making didn’t interest Shawn and Nate enough; they had to add their own fun by jogging in the deep snow with shorts. I got several pictures of them jumping on the tramp and making snow angels. When they came inside, Nate had ice crystals hanging on this chest hair!

Our tradition of ice skating remained in tact despite the storms and luckily, not many people were anxious to crowd the ice arena that day since there was so much ice outside! Most everyone has fun ice skating.

Before heading to Albany to take Kyre and the children home Christmas Eve afternoon we attempted a family picture that we had rearranged work and flight schedules in order to accomplish. Kathi Knowles, a photographer in the ward, was kind enough to give us some of her time right as her son was arriving from the airport that morning. We had planned a great outdoor shot by the waterfall by Grandma’s condo but it not only was wet but covered with too much snow. We had to settle for an indoor shot with a wide angle lens on the camera since Kathi couldn’t get far enough away from our large group. She was disappointed that she couldn’t get a better shot of the group and has offered to do the shoot again someday when we can all get together. This is very generous of her since her time was donated to the Camp Auction and that is how we came to buy her services. All in all I think it went as well as could be expected with the snowy conditions to even get to the building and having three children under the age of two. This family pose is one that is in the final running but my favorite pose is of the grandchildren at the very end when everyone was ready to go to lunch and Klaire was the only toddler happy since she had a familiar lap on which to sit (and her stuffed animal right next to her)! But the moment in time is what is so precious to have all the grandchildren together; even with Alina smiling as Jenna screams louder in her ear than she thought possible!

We learned later that afternoon that Dad being with us on Christmas Eve was in jeopardy due to the road conditions coming back from taking Kyre and the children home to Albany. It took extra hours just crawling through traffic as the freeway was closed several times as the snow plows tried to make conditions better. I don’t know that we have had snow this deep for this period of a time. The ruts in the roads were impassable at points. Dad made it back just as we sat down to eat thank goodness.

We had a great Christmas Eve program with stories and music. The best part was when Rebekah was asked to tell the Christmas story and she directed us to “act” out the story with an impromptu play of sorts, she being the angel and her mother being the narrator if I recall that correctly. Oh course, Aubrey was chosen to be Mary (great with child) being led by Joseph (Shawn) and the donkey (Nate). We ended with Dad dedicating our home (something we have wanted to do for years) since we were all finally home together. It was a wonderful evening; no one wanted to leave the living room so Santa of course couldn’t make his visit until the wee hours of the morning. Luckily, he did not give up and we woke to a grand display of gifts on Christmas morning.

The length of time for all the present opening was like the days when we all were living under the same roof and it took all day. It was like getting a call from a missionary to be able to take a break and talk to Scott on Christmas! He actually is serving the Lord where he is; he is a great example for goodness and I know he makes a difference. He told Adrianne on her last visit of the vacation, that he enjoyed the food during the holidays and they were even treated to steak on New Year’s. He also loved his visits with each one of you.

Of the gifts, there were several handmade gifts, hard to find items and specially ordered surprise items that were exciting to see opened and of course it was fun to watch the grandchildren open some of their playful gifts. Dad and I received some grand gifts from all of you; our technology brain cells will get some work outs while learning how to use the iPod Touch and the navigation system! We stopped for our traditional Christmas breakfast after everyone saw what Santa brought and opened their stockings. It seemed we were opening gifts until it was time to fix dinner which had to be prompt since half the family was going to the Portland Trailblazer game that evening. They had a hard time getting the van out of the neighborhood so Dad drove the tractor down to plow the corner that was the worse area before they drove home! The whole neighborhood was grateful for Dad’s plowing services. That effort allowed our neighbor to maneuver out to the main streets during the storm; he received candy gifts galore.

The night after Christmas was a delightful and elegant dinner out at the Heathman Hotel to celebrate Nate’s graduation. He is going to walk in April so that is why no one received any announcements.

The rest of the holiday was spent playing together, playing new games and old, building snow tunnels, after Christmas returns and shopping, roasting marshmallows in Dad’s new fire pit and eating, eating and more eating. You must eat snacks while playing games so I think we went through about six or seven cheese balls, a family favorite. After all the cream cheese that I stocked up on before the holidays, I had to actually send Bill out for more!

These are just a sampling of the pictures from Christmas. I am still in the process of labeling and editing all the pictures from the holidays. As soon as I can get my Costco.com photo site working again (I have to call customer service again), I will send you my file on their website so you can see the rest of the pictures. Did anyone get a picture of Shawn and Aubrey with the Christmas tree quilt? I would love one of those if so.

We are thankful that everyone arrived at their homes safely. The Brady family was the first to leave. Since they couldn’t drive their car here due to the storms, they drove our Taurus home. We had decided not to sell it this fall since we knew that we could use an extra car over the holidays. Now that it is in Utah, Katie could decide whether she will take that car or her Honda to St. Louis. I think it is a stronger car for brutal weather and for the trip this weekend! Katie spent New Year’s Eve with Reshea and her family, even Aunt Carla and Uncle Scott, in Pismo Beach. I bet their evening was more exciting than ours! Nate went to dinner with a friend but came home early. Adrianne went to the dance with friends and Dad and I worked at the dance.

In Utah the Brady’s decided to have toasts for several events so when it was Rebekah’s turn her toast was, “I love my family and know the Church is true.” and Jenna’s was, “Toast!” Adrianne spent her last days here visiting with all her barn friends. Nate decided to drive with Arik Johnstone. That was nice for Arik since he only drove out here due to his flight getting cancelled and not being able to rebook until after Christmas, so he didn’t have a rider planned. It was nice for us since that helped us get the last of the boxes, luggage and strollers to their rightful owners in the different states with only having to pay one extra baggage fee! It is a good thing that Dad and I never had the time to clean out the attic in November as we had hoped. We planned to do that so that we could send boxes home with everyone but there wouldn’t have been room anyway. I was nervous about Nate’s drive since the roads were getting bad again but he said it was a very dry snow on the roads.

Dad is having a hard time thinking about work after this huge break. He is so lucky to have finished the large Vancouver job before the storms. We knew the months ahead would be bleak since there is no work lined up. This severe winter weather also contributes to people not thinking about concrete work which won’t help. I told Dad that we needed to sit down in the days ahead and put ourselves on a strict budget. His reply was, “Does that mean we are going to be vacationing for awhile?” He has really like this break, being forced not to think about work!

Thank you again to all of you for the extra efforts and for the sacrifices made to come together as a family. One of the girls in our ward who went home to Hawaii mentioned in her testimony at church a woman (actually Sister Kim, Jenn Jones Kim’s mother-in-law and Jeff, Jeremy and Kyle’s mission president’s wife) in her ward who passed away suddenly just days before Christmas. At times like this we realize that we never know when the last time we will have the chance to express love to those around us. In a family, we are sadly very aware of each other’s faults and shortcoming and yet happily, willing to love unconditionally and willing to lift and love whenever and wherever necessary. Thank you for the kindness that you show to Dad and me and to your siblings. Seeing you love one another brings us the most joy. This has been a year of healing and rebuilding for our family. Dad and I hope that you are filling your reserves and feeling more rejuvenated after this Christmas season.

Have a great start to this new year! I love you. Love, Mom

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